2 things you need to know about willpower to be able to use it

Will power is defined as : “The strength of will to carry out one’s decisions, wishes, or plans.” or  “Control of one’s impulses and actions; determination; self-control.” or “The ability to delay gratification, resisting short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.”   Irrespective of which definition resonates with you, will power is something that very few claim to have and most aspire for. This power can lead you to persevere and achieve anything, be it quitting smoking, losing weight or any other seemingly impossible goal. It is equally easy to discount your  failures to lack of will power. But I believe each and everyone of us has will power inherent in us. What we may not have is a clear understanding of what will power means and how to use it to get what we want.

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The 5 inner demons every leader must tame

Vince Lombardi said “ Leaders are made, they are not born. They are made by hard effort, which is the price which all of us must pay to achieve any goal that is worthwhile.” If this is indeed true why are so most leadership development programs so unsuccessful in imparting these learnings?  Alternately if leaders are born why do organisations spend millions every year in leadership development? This is because there is a third element to the “made vs born” debate. People can be born with leadership qualities, which the development processes can fine tune OR people can be born sans leadership and acquire it along the way.  

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Are you “playing to win” or “playing not to lose”?

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“ In order to succeed your desire for success need to be higher than you fear of failure” – Bill Cosby While we would all want to be always consistent in our performance unfortunately professional and personal effectiveness like life does not come in absolutes. As most business leaders grow in an organisation there are subtle changes that start happening in their personal mindsets.  

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4 personal traits that can overshadow your excellence

If you are a high achiever or used to being an excellent performer but are suddenly finding it difficult to get things done check if any of the following personal traits are getting in your way.

Being a perfectionist
Over-competitiveness
Constant need to do more
Need for speed

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10 life lessons from a toddler

I have a 20 month old son and I thought I had to teach him the rules of life……….till I realized I had it all wrong. If you really want something try every way you know to get it. Sometime a sweet smile works but, sometimes you just have to yell the roof off! Practice makes perfect. Keep trying and you will eventually get it right. Yes it may involve a few falls and bumps but that’s the only way you learn…. walking, climbing, running…and pretty much everything else in life. If someone tells you not to do something, listen to th

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Having it “all”

A recent article all over Facebook, news portals and blogs had Indira Nooyi’s picture and title proclaiming in bold terms “I don’t think women can have it all. I just don’t think so. ” While active feminista ran to share the post and add a whole bunch of likes to it; it made me wonder why we are making such a hoola hoo about this. “Women cannot have it all”….but then who can? Is there really anyone out there, man or woman who can claim to have it all…….all the time?

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